Issues I Work With:

IT'S MY GOAL TO CREATE A COMFORTABLE, SAFE ENVIRONMENT WHERE WE CAN WORK TOGETHER TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS

  • Abortion
  • Abuse
  • Adult children of alcoholics
  • Affairs and betrayals
  • Anger management
  • Anxiety
  • Attachment
  • Bereavement
  • Bipolar Affective Disorder (Manic Depression)
  • Bullying
  • Cancer
  • Career
  • Carer support
  • Child related issues
  • Depression
  • Dissociation
  • Domestic violence
  • Emotional abuse
  • Family issues
  • Generalised anxiety disorder
  • Hoarding
  • Low self-confidence
  • Low self-esteem
  • Miscarriage
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
  • Panic disorder
  • Passive Aggressive Behaviour
  • Peupheral Psychosis
  • Phobias
  • Physical abuse
  • Post Traumatic Stress
  • Postnatal Depression
  • Pregnancy and Birth
  • Redundancy
  • Relationship Issues
  • Seasonal Affective Disorder
  • Self-Harm
  • Separation and Divorce
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Substance Misuse
  • Suicide
  • Trauma
  • Work Related Stress

Details of some of these issues is shown below :-

ANXIETY

What Are Anxiety Disorders?

We all experience anxiety, worry and fear from time to time. These can be normal responses to certain situations. For example, you might worry about an upcoming important event such as a job interview or payment of bills on time. If you are in a difficult or dangerous situation, these feelings can be heightened and create deeper , longer and more complicated mental health problems for you.

If you are diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, these feelings can be more noticeable and difficult to live with. They can make you feel as though things are worse than they actually are. This can lead to you worrying all or most of the time and can affect your day to day life.

Symptoms of anxiety include:

  • feelings of dread, panic or 'impending doom',
  • feeling on edge or irritable,
  • heightened alertness,
  • difficulties sleeping,
  • changes in appetite,
  • difficulties concentrating,
  • depersonalisation, and
  • wanting to escape from the situation you are in.

You might also experience physical symptoms, which can include:

  • sweating,
  • heavy and fast breathing,
  • hot flushes or blushing
  • dry mouth
  • shaking
  • hair loss
  • fast heartbeat
  • dizziness and fainting, and
  • irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), stomach aches and sickness.

Counselling can provide you with a professional listening ear to help discuss, explore and gently help you to guide yourself out of these difficult feelings, thoughts and behaviours.

Don't let your anxiety disable or debilitate your ability to get well and stay well. You CAN enjoy life again, so why not give yourself that opportunity!

 

"Do not confuse my bad days as a sign of weakness. Those are actually the days I am fighting my hardest."

- healthyplace.com

DEPRESSION

If you are depressed you might be feeling low in mood, upset or tearful, You may feel restless, agitated or irritable, sleeping too much or too little.

You may have trouble remembering or concentrating on things.  Your appetite may increase or you may find you are losing weight.  Confidence and self esteem will be affected.  You may find it difficult to speak or think clearly and there is no pleasure in life or the things you used to enjoy doing.

You will lose interest in sex.  In an extreme case you may feel hopeless and helpless and you may feel suicidal. You will feel aches and pains that were not there before and you may lose a sense of reality. You may neglect your personal hygiene and social interests.

 

"Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear."

- C.S Lewis

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Here at Mornview Therapeutic Services I provide a one-to-one therapeutic counselling service for adults and young people, in a safe, confidential and supportive environment where they are free to talk without fear of being judge or condemn.

Counselling offers you support to help you cope when you are feeling depressed, negative about yourself or confused and unsure of how to deal with what is happening in your life. It provides time to explore feelings and to talk through difficulties.

Counselling does not give advice but try to help and support you to find solutions that are right for you.

You may or may not know much about counselling, but there are different schools of counselling and this can make a difference to your experience. At Mornview Therapeutic Services I use a variety of therapeutic approaches which are tailored to your needs.

The counsellor’s is about a role is to be real, who two-way relationship between client and counsellor. I am not here to judge you or tell you what to do, but to follow you in what you want to talk about. It is different from talking to friends or family, as you can say what you want without fear of being made to feel foolish or told what you should do or keep it a secret because you are afraid of how they might respond or tell others.

Counselling can only really work if it is something you want to do, rather than you feel you should do or someone else thinks you should do. It could be that when a counselling slot becomes free you might decide that it is not a good time for you (perhaps you are moving house or have lots of other things going on) and that’s fine, just tell me and you can take up the service when it is right for you.

 

"I survived because the fire inside me burned brighter that the fire around me."

- anon

INFIDELITY

Infidelity is about unfaithfulness in a marriage or committed relationship.

It can severely strain a relationship and the individuals involved. It can create devastation, feeling alone, betrayed, jealous, confused, and aggrieved. Sometimes, an affair ends a relationship, and other times couples are able to repair the relationship on their own or with the help of a therapist.

Counselling will help you to explore what caused the infidelity and you will be helped through your own recovery process.  In general, a successful relationship requires feelings of stability and security, physical and emotional intimacy, and companionship. When any one of these is deficient, one or both partners are likely to feel dissatisfied, and dissatisfaction in a relationship can increase the likelihood of infidelity.

Affairs rarely have just one cause, and they don't always happen because of unhappiness or dissatisfaction in a relationship. It's vital that you both understand the real reasons why it happened.

Part of the process in counselling is being honest about your own vulnerabilities to an affair and why these might have been different to your partner's.

This can be very painful and can take a lot of time, but unless you know what went wrong, you won't be able to change things in the future. Be patient. It takes time to rebuild trust that has been broken.

Both partner’s experiences must be talked through and the whole process may take months or longer. Often, the unfaithful partner wants to draw a line under events and not talk about them, or a faithful partner is reluctant to ask questions in case the answers are too painful. It's important to tell the story of the affair and why it happened.

If it is what you both want, commit to a new future together. Both of you must do this and mean it.

Counselling can help you to find time for each other, take an interest in each others' lives and feelings, and resolve to be honest with each other in future, even if it means taking a risk.  We can explore how to restore your sexual behaviour after an affir.  Again, patience and honesty are required.

An important factor is the effects on family members; children in-laws and friends

An affair does not mean the end of your marriage unless you both choose to part.  With hard, commitment and patience it may be possible to come through this crisis changed, but also stronger.

"One of the scariest things in life is when you come to the realisation that the only thing that you can save is yourself."

- Demi Lovato

PTSD

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can occur after a traumatic event. Symptoms vary but can include panic attacks and flashbacks where you relive the event. Left untreated it can lead to self-medicating with alcohol, prescription drugs or illegal drugs. Timely treatment is crucial.

If you are involved in or witness a traumatic event, it is common to experience upsetting, distressing or confusing feelings afterwards. The feelings of distress may not emerge straight away – you may just feel emotionally numb at first. After a while you may develop emotional and physical reactions, such as feeling easily upset or not being able to sleep.

This is understandable, and many people find that these symptoms disappear in a relatively short period of time. But if your problems last for longer than a month, or are very extreme, you may be given a diagnosis of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

There’s no time limit on distress, and some people may not develop post-traumatic symptoms until many years after the event. Additionally, not everyone who has experienced a traumatic event develops PTSD.

What are the symptoms?

The symptoms of PTSD can vary from person to person, although you may experience some of the following.

Reliving aspects of the trauma:

  • vivid flashbacks (feeling that the trauma is happening all over again)
  • intrusive thoughts and images
  • nightmares
  • intense distress at real or symbolic reminders of the trauma
  • physical sensations, such as pain, sweating, nausea or trembling.

Alertness or feeling on edge:

  • panicking when reminded of the trauma
  • being easily upset or angry
  • extreme alertness
  • a lack of or disturbed sleep
  • irritability and aggressive behaviour
  • lack of concentration
  • being easily startled
  • self-destructive behaviour or recklessness.

Avoiding feelings or memories:

  • keeping busy
  • avoiding situations that remind you of the trauma
  • repressing memories (being unable to remember aspects of the event)
  • feeling detached, cut off and emotionally numb
  • being unable to express affection
  • using alcohol or drugs to avoid memories.

You may also develop other mental health problems, such as:

  • severe anxiety
  • a phobia
  • depression
  • a dissociative disorder
  • suicidal feelings.

Contact Mornview Therapeutic Services to get the help you need.

You will benefit from:

  • Treatment sessions to suit your work and commitments
  • Complete discretion and confidentiality
  • Treatment based on your personal situation

Don’t let a traumatic experience rule your life. Get the help and support you need now

There’s no time limit on distress, and some people may not develop post-traumatic symptoms until many years after the event. Additionally, not everyone who has experienced a traumatic event develops PTSD.

 

"Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives."

- Anon

RAPE AND SEXUAL ABUSE

Mornview Therapeutic Services offers counselling to parents/carers/partners and supporters of survivors of rape and sexual abuse. The aim of counselling is to provide a space/opportunity for survivors to explore and work through their experiences of sexual violence.  It is important to feel validated and survivors who have had counselling have spoken of the importance of being believed, heard, accepted and understood.

You will never be pressured into talking about anything you do not wish to.  The focus of the sessions is on what you choose to bring.

The effects of the abuse may not always be obvious for many years after the event.  Counselling cannot make the abuse go away, but it will enable you to work through your thoughts and feelings so that you can acknowledge what happened and live with it as a part of your life, without being overwhelmed or controlled by it.

 

"Just like the Lotus, we too have the ability to rise from the mud, bloom out of the darkness and radiate into the world."

- Anon.

 

SELF-HARM AND SUICIDE

Sometimes people turn to self harming behaviours to cope with difficult and distressing feelings.  You may feel better in the short term but self harming can be dangerous and make you feel worse in the long term.

During extreme times you may think about suicide which may be thoughts or an actual plan or intent to end your life.  You may find it very difficult to control these thoughts and they create fear.  If you are worried about acting on your suicidal thoughts, you can contact Mornview Therapeutic Services, call an ambulance or go straight to any A&E department or you can call the Samaritans for free on 116 123 to talk to a trained person.

 

"The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die."

- Juliette Lewis